Freedom!

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Strange, I can say the word “Freedom” as I am a single woman for the first time in years. Completely free of any kind of obligation to a significant other is actually a GREAT feeling. I don’t have to think about anyone else’s well being except my own which is not selfish. I can do as I please which is exhilarating and liberating at the same time.

As a single woman and hitting the age of 50 in another year, I have to say it’s not as scary as I thought it would be. I have NEVER been alone and this time around I really want to find myself and figure out my goals. It’s never to late to have goals, what else keeps us going?!

I believe, I have grown to appreciate myself in the sense of who I am as a person. I don’t think I need to change for anyone at this stage in my life. We all have bad habits those can be changed but I meant our  individual personalities. I am a very caring person and at times I think of others before I do myself. If you are like that don’t feel awful, it’s who you are. It’s our nature to be caring people and that isn’t a bad thing. The only time it’s harmful is when it  can hurt you emotionally or physically. Also, helping others who are selfish and destructive. I’m sure we all have been there in one form or another but realize it and change it or leave the people that are toxic, it’s not healthy for anyone’s happiness.

“Freedom: the state of being free or at liberty rather than in confinement or under physical restraint.” We all have been there, feeling like one is confined when in a relationship is an uncomfortable feeling. It shouldn’t feel like that at all, this is not normal. Being with someone is to be joyful and looking forward to converse with that special someone. It’s not always going to feel exciting but NEVER a disappointment. With that being said, move forward open minded, take the time to meet and explore new interesting people in this world.

Luck to all the women and men out there finding yourself and the perfect companion when the time is right.

Wishing happiness and love to all.

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CHANGE

Funny how most or all my post have to do with change, well it’s inevitable. We can’t help the things that change around us; we can however change the way it affects us as a person and our response to its diversity.

Let me reflect on the business aspects of my life instead of family or friends for once. I am in a stage in my life where I feel the need for transformation in my career which will effect my self worth. I need to feel and see that  there is a bright light beyond and I don’t feel that right now. I’m sure that can be spiritually or just a feeling of content. I’m feeling neither right now. What does that exactly mean to me? I’m looking for not the norm, challenges, stability and camaraderie in my next adventure.

Now, it’s time to get focused and back on the bull to take control once again. It’s NEVER too late to start if it be today or tomorrow. I’ve set goals and updated my vision board which, reflect the things that are going to be done that make me HAPPY! Very common things such as pay off debit, rebuild my savings and allocate for a home again. Pictures of the things I envision in my life once again or new possessions to share.

Planning is crucial in all aspects of growth in life. I’m sure I’m not the only person with these similar goals. What needs to be done emotionally, you have to have the vitality to keep moving forward with positive goals with whatever obstacles that gets in the way. You have to find the means to balance your life with budgeting and realistic expectation of how to maintain your life style. We are the only ones who can make our destiny be what you want it to be with confidence and smart decisions the earlier in life the better. If it be in business, relationships, love, life etc… it’s all up to us as individuals.

Education; continual learning will keep up the intellect skills needed for what drives us. We are never too old to learn if it be professionally or spiritually. Find the balance in your life if it be between school, work, family, friends and health try to find the symmetry.  It’s important to gain a nest egg for your future to be comfortable so make wise choices.

Much love and happiness

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