Bess PB Sunset

Strange, I can say the word “Freedom” as I am a single woman for the first time in years. Completely free of any kind of obligation to a significant other is actually a GREAT feeling. I don’t have to think about anyone else’s well being except my own which is not selfish. I can do as I please which is exhilarating and liberating at the same time.

As a single woman and hitting the age of 50 in another year, I have to say it’s not as scary as I thought it would be. I have NEVER been alone and this time around I really want to find myself and figure out my goals. It’s never to late to have goals, what else keeps us going?!

I believe, I have grown to appreciate myself in the sense of who I am as a person. I don’t think I need to change for anyone at this stage in my life. We all have bad habits those can be changed but I meant our  individual personalities. I am a very caring person and at times I think of others before I do myself. If you are like that don’t feel awful, it’s who you are. It’s our nature to be caring people and that isn’t a bad thing. The only time it’s harmful is when it  can hurt you emotionally or physically. Also, helping others who are selfish and destructive. I’m sure we all have been there in one form or another but realize it and change it or leave the people that are toxic, it’s not healthy for anyone’s happiness.

“Freedom: the state of being free or at liberty rather than in confinement or under physical restraint.” We all have been there, feeling like one is confined when in a relationship is an uncomfortable feeling. It shouldn’t feel like that at all, this is not normal. Being with someone is to be joyful and looking forward to converse with that special someone. It’s not always going to feel exciting but NEVER a disappointment. With that being said, move forward open minded, take the time to meet and explore new interesting people in this world.

Luck to all the women and men out there finding yourself and the perfect companion when the time is right.

Wishing happiness and love to all.


People – a Reflection

CommunityHuman kindness comes to some but not so much to others, such as common sense. Treat one another as you would want to be treated. Is that such the case with people who think they are better than others? I find people intriguing in such that I think about what drives them to be and act the way they do? I see that in majority cases it has to do with pier pressure to be a curtain way and if they are called on by a group, leader or loved one they tend to be greatly influenced.

I think now that I’ve encountered different scenarios in my life time,  I have a better outlook and experience in how friends, employment and social gathering interact.  I’ve always thought of myself as being a very open minded person. I’m a good listener and genuinely want to hear what people have to say who ever they are. I’ve dealt with all kinds of people from all walks of life, if it be a white collar, blue collar or even unfortunate individuals everyone deserves to be heard. It’s either genetics, upbringing and or choice, the way people treat one another. I think as you grow and see how the world is and how our society interacts, it has an effect and outlook on how we socialize. America is so sheltered when it comes to the way people interact to one another. I guess you can say we are quite spoiled because we are allowed to have freedom of speech and have choices in how we choose to live our lives. The choice is of coarse yours to make and I hope it’s a positive one. The interaction you have if it be with fellow workers, strangers and or loved ones wishing it will always be with sincerity and goodness.

This is my REFLECTION for the month.

Much love and happiness.